Maybe it's just me but when I'm pregnant I become all consumed with the entire process.  It's all I can think about and, unfortunately for those around me, all I talk about.  And even thought this baby wasn't planned or expected, within hours of getting a positive test I had 8 iPhone apps and was thinking about names.  It's like the baby is some kind of strange parasite that overtakes my brain so I can only concentrate on what it is doing to my body and my life.  But it also makes me think about the kids I have now, how this baby is going to effect their lives once it's here and forever.  How is this little one going to change our established family dynamic.  Zoe is fine, she's great at being a big sister and this baby will not be a problem for her at all.  Asher will be alright as long as he can still get his early morning "cuddle time" with me, that's the only time of day that he NEEDS his momma.  Taegan, well...I'm really worried about how she is going to react.  She is incredibly jealous.  She is very independent, but as soon as Mike or I pick up or hold one of the other two, she flips out.  I don't think she is going to handle it very well at all.

But this is will be good for us.  We'll have to figure out how to work better as a family, how to better manage money, and how to parent 4 kids.  It's funny how your parenting style has to change every  time you add a new one into the mix.  With one child, you can do everything you always wanted (or thought you wanted), play dates, dance class, one on one time, you can discipline the way you want, enforce sleep time, dinner time, play time, learning time the way you want to.  There is no one else to screw up the perfect schedule you've set up for your family.  Number 2 comes along and things start to conflict, one naps when the other is awake, one is sick when the other has a play date, one only wants corn dogs the other only wants pb&j, one is a night owl the other is an early riser.  It's funny, but when number 2 arrives, you realize how easy it is to only have one.  Number 3 causes complete chaos, no one is ever asleep at the same time, no one can agree on food, no one wants to watch the same movie, and suddenly, the parents are out numbered and you run out of arm and lap space to hold everyone at the same time.  On the bright side rumor has it that after number 3 your brain turns to complete mush and any kids you have after that just kind of fit in somewhere.  It's gonna be an interesting ride.

Now what...

So basically everyone knows now that we are expecting baby Schultz #4.  No, we weren't planning this.  No, we weren't very careful about preventing this.  So yes, we should have expected this.  Whatever, too late now.  Besides, what are you gonna do about?  Cry?  Complain?  Think about all the things are going to change?  What good does any of that do?

I think it's funny how the same event can cause so many different reactions.  I have had people give me responses ranging from total happiness and joy to someone asking me if we were going to keep the baby.  I guess the response that has surprised me the most is mine.  A few months ago I wasn't sure whether or not I wanted more children, but even if we were going to have more, I knew I didn't want another baby any time soon.  And now, I am obsessed with pregnancy all over again.  I have about 8 new pregnancy apps, I am constantly thinking about names, I'm cautiously waiting for the nausea to kick in, and I'm trying to imagine what life is going to be like with another little baby in the house. Now I'm thinking about the things we need...a VAN, a new crib, and a new infant car seat.  Not too bad... I did give away all of my infant clothing and some of  my maternity clothes, but that's not a big deal, I already bought a new maternity dress.  HA!

Whatever, when I was pregnant with Taegan I knew (or felt like I knew) she was not going to be my last pregnancy, and I didn't want to even think that it was going to be the last time I was pregnant.  But this time is very different.  I KNOW that this is the last pregnancy.  So I want to make a real effort to enjoy it for what it is.  Sometimes I wish I wouldn't have found out so early (4wk2d) because it makes the wait for the end so long, but on the other hand...it is giving me the chance to enjoy nearly every single day of the pregnancy.  It is over so quickly, when you're at the end looking back...it really is the fastest 9 months of your life.  So who cares?  We are here, having another baby, and we are going to enjoy it and welcome the new little Schultz when he/she arrives.

So thanks to everyone for your amazing support, I know so many people who don't get the same kind of responses we got, especially with how close in age our little ones are going to be.  I know we wouldn't be able to handle this as easily if it wasn't for YOU!

Couponing, Birthdays, and Promotions

That's pretty much been my life for the past few weeks.  Family coming in for a birthday party, gearing up for Halloween, clipping coupons and planning my grocery store trips like I'm cramming for some weird final, and Mike got a promotion.  So let's break it down (but you gotta say like the crazy guy on Yo Gabba Gabba)...

So Zoe turned 4 on October 20th and we had a great turn out for her costume party!  WOOT WOOT!  Princesses, super heroes, animals...it was great!  And with birthdays comes family which brings insane amounts of cleaning the house so the in-laws don't think you are some kind of wacko who is leaving their child and grandchildren neglected and starving.  My in-laws don't think that way, but that's what goes through my mind whenever they are coming into town.  The house never gets as clean as I would like it, I seriously need a maid.  And since Halloween is right around the corner, we carved pumpkins!  Hurray!  Unfortunately, we had about 3 days of rain and they all turned to moldy mush...not fun.  Plus I have also decided to be super cheap with my candy giving this year...I'm handing out all my left over candy from last year first.  So don't come to my house expecting anything super yummy, cause that ain't happenin'.  Hahaha!

And coupoing is going really well!  I saved over $100 today.  Yup, I'm serious.  Over one hundred dollars.  Awesome, especially since I had to get things that aren't every time items, like dog food, toilet paper, and contact solution.  In fact, listen to this:  I had 2 $1 off coupons for Ronzoni Garden Delight pasta, and this week that pasta is buy one get one free at Publix.  That Ronzoni pasta was regularly $1.79 but when it is BOGO, Publix makes each box half price!  So that means each box was 89cents, and when I used my $1 off coupons for each box...well, you see the math!  I got 2 boxes of pasta for FREE and the 22cents change (11cents per box) was taken off the rest of the bill!  Now THAT is how couponing works!  I got other awesome deals, like 4 cans of Cambells Select Soup for $2.80 total, and Tyson AnyTizers that are normally $9 a bag for $3.50 a bag.  So I'm very satisfied with the results so far.  Even with the time it takes to prepare for the shopping trip, it is so worth it.  Now I just need to get to the point where I have enough coupons for each item that I can stock up on things to last me to the next sale.  Although, I've noticed that if one brand of tuna is on sale this week, next week the competitor brand is on sale, so it seems to work itself out as long as I am flexible with the brand.

And Mike got a promotion, or is going to be getting a promotion in the coming months.  Either way it is great news.  More job security and stability.  Good things!  However, I am truly beginning to understand why all the other wives call themselves Key Property widows.  His already long days are being pulled even longer and this week (auction week) he is even gone on Saturdays.But all this training is good for him and in the long run it is good for our family.  I just wish there was a better balance, oh well, it'll work out.

So those are the things that have been on my mind recently.  Nothing to straining or deep or life changing, but time consuming and just apart of our every day lives.

Does a blog need a purpose?

I feel like every blog I hear about or read has a purpose.  Whether the blogger is discussing politics or parenting, couponing or Christianity, they are all focused on one idea.  My blog is nothing like that, I'll get a thought stuck in my head and if I can't get it out, I blog it.  Which doesn't happen with too much consistency, obviously.  Besides all that, I have too much going on in my mind to just focus on one theme all the time.  Couple that with chasing kids around like a crazy person, and I don't really have the time to devote to one thing or another.  So maybe I'll blog about different things on different days and try to fit it all in.  I feel like I have a lot to talk about and since I don't get out much, this blog will have to be my voice.

Today's blog is about motherhood.  It's important that you know that I can only speak for women and only of my experiences, I know that everyone is different and my opinions don't hold true for all people.  It's funny how we have all these ideas about motherhood before we ever become one.  When we are young we think motherhood is about being able to tell someone else what to do and as we get older we think, it'll be fun to have a kid cause we can play with them and let them do all the things our parents never let us do.  Then as we get to the age where we could become mothers and we start to judge other women and how they are raising their kids saying, "Oh, I'd never do that." or "I can't believe they are letting their child behave that way!"  Then we get that positive pregnancy test and things start to change, we start thinking about names and looks and personalities that our child might have and what we can do to influence those things.  We take better care of ourselves in order to give our baby the best start in life, and this is just the beginning of the things we sacrifice for our kids.

Everyone hears about sacrificing for your child, and most people do it once they become mothers, but ideas are NOTHING compared to the truth.  Giving up alcohol and junk food for veggies and vitamins is trivial compared to the things you give up after you leave the delivery room.  It isn't just about the way your body changes and never goes back, the way that can make you feel, especially when your husband is no worse for wear and people like Heidi Klum strut their stuff on the Victoria's Secret cat walk 6 weeks postpartum.  It isn't about the hormonal mood swings that come out of nowhere, cause while that diminishes slightly over time, it never goes away.  It isn't about not having time for yourself anymore, when just as you get the baby to sleep and you try to lie down, the phone rings or dog barks and the baby is screaming again.  It's everything.  Literally, every THING in your life is now effected because you are a mother.  And some things about motherhood are still only discussed in the doctor's office, which is good that the docs are talking about it, but you feel like a weirdo around your friends who have had kids and they never talk about them.  Things like how much nursing hurts or about postpartum depression or about how your husband wants sex and you could care less.  We don't hear about these things from our friends so when they happen to us, we are left feeling odd and alone.  And beyond the infant stages we are constantly being challenged with lessons in patience, kindness, and self-control.

Kids are great, and the good things you hear about parenting are even better when you experience them, but I think sometimes we get so caught up in how great it is that we leave out the people who feel like some of it isn't so great, in fact, some of it stinks.  And while we wouldn't trade our kids for what we have given up, we want to make sure that those thinking about becoming moms know the whole picture and aren't caught unawares when the perfect happy world they thought parenthood was becomes a nightmare.  And for those women who think, "I'm going to be a great mom.",  you'll have days where you aren't so sure.  And those who think, "I will never let my children behave that way.",  they will.  And those who think, "I can't believe that mother is ignoring her crying child.",  you'll learn to tune out the cries that don't matter.

Couponing, let's get it on!

So a few weeks ago I posted how I needed to learn how to coupon.  A few acquaintances, some friends, and some family put in their 2 cents and I did some of my own research to finally feel comfortable enough to put some of it into action.  But before I get into the actual happenings of my first adventure couponing, let me fill you in on our family grocery budget.

These are the things I consider "groceries":

• all food
• all cleaning products
• all baby products
• all pet products
• all cooking products
• all personal care products
• basically anything you can get at Publix

Our grocery bill was averaging around $150 a week, not too bad for 5 people, about $4.25 a day per person.  But others I have talked to are saying their grocery bills are tiny, like teeny weeny, itty bitty tiny.  Like having over a hundred dollars worth of groceries and only paying $30ish. THAT'S NUTS!  So I heard enough of these stories to get me interested, if they can, I can.  And besides all that, we have to find a way to get our budget under control or I'm gonna have to start looking for a job (and nobody wants that!).

So my first adventure started at Kroger, they usually have low prices and they have these 10/$10 deals on all sorts of items.  So I went in with no coupons hoping to find something and I did.  There was a automatic coupon machine, that is known as a "blinkie" in the couponing world, giving out 55cent coupons for Dannon Greek yogur,t so I grabbed one.  I went over to where the yogurt is and guess what?!? the same yogurt was on manager's special for 69cents! So I end up getting this rather tasty yogurt for only 14cents!!  And this is the beauty of couponing!  You use the coupons in conjunction with other sales going on at the stores, plus any store coupons going on at the same time to get items for more than half off the regular price!  Of course it is more involved than walking in on a deal, there is a lot of planning and foresight and stocking up but for the first time out, I was quite impressed.  Overall on that trip, with other coupons and getting some items for great prices (like solid Albacore tuna regularly $1.79 for $1) I saved over $16.  Not too shabby for my first time around.  

So I clipped out all my coupons today, organized them, and now I need to make a list of everything I need (or will need), check it against what's on sale and what coupons I have, and GO!  Hopefully, I can start saving some serious cash!

What do I wanna be when I grow up?

Remember when you were in grade school and you had to write a paper about what you wanted to be when you grew up?  Or maybe you were given a list of career choices and you had to mark the one that you wanted to do?  I checked nearly all the boxes.  Doctor check, Farmer check, Lawyer check, Policeman check, Teacher check, Astronaut check...  Eventually you grow up and realize that it isn't possible to do all of these things unless you are an actor (check).  But at what point did this reality set in?  It doesn't seem that I have ever reached that point. 

 After graduating high school I went to college with the intent of eventually going to med school.  After one semester I switched to a major in English then, after doing an internship with Walt Disney World, I withdrew from college and waited tables.  I decided, if I can't go to med school, I'll become a paramedic, so I went to EMT school.  After not finding a job, I decided to be a mortgage broker (that was in early 2005) needless to say that didn't pan out.  So at 22, when all my high school friends were graduating college, I was still waiting tables.  I decided I needed to get my degree, no matter what.  A husband and 3 kids later I finally graduate, smack dab in the middle of the highest unemployment in years.  So here I am, with a double major in criminal justice and forensic science, and I realize I'm at another cross road.  Do I apply for jobs with a police department and work my way into the criminal investigation division?  Pay off some student loans and then go back to school?  Hold out for a job in a medical examiners office(my dream job)? 

I guess if I could do anything I would be a medical examiner who also had a plastic surgery practice and I would offer up my law services to the local Innocence Project, all while being completely available to my kids with plenty of time to write a book or two.  

Wow, so much time has passed.

6 months.  A lot can happen in that amount of time.  For us, we've been provided for, we've moved, we've made new friends, we've lost touch with other friends.  Settling in, getting used to new schedules, vacations, dance classes, birthday parties, new dog, LIFE!  But here we are, not just happy, but joyful!  Things are always going to go wrong or not go as planned, but the last year has taught me that there are better plans out there than the ones I have for myself!  God can and will provide for what His children need, even if it isn't what we think we need. I know I'm rambling, 6 months worth of thoughts will do that!  But I'm going to try to keep this blog more up to date, filled with random thoughts and things I think are important or worth talking about or just want to talk about.  

But since you are reading this, I'll let you in on a secret that only a few other people know about...I'm training for a 5K.  Big deal, right?  Well, it kinda is for me, you see, I hate running.  But here I am training for a 5K.  I'm using a program called Couch to 5K which is supposed to have you 5K ready in just 9 weeks.  I'm on week 4 and I'm no where close to being able to run 3.1 miles without stopping, but I'm on my way.  I'll keep you posted.